Life has a way of making you feel that the end of marriage, means you failed. You failed in keeping together a family for one reason or another. You failed because you created this unit of two people and you didn't make it. Yes, your family is no longer the same unit and Yes the unity of two is now divided. BUT..It doesn't mean failure.
I didn't know in 2010 when I decided to end my marriage how much it would mean to my future. I didn't know that decision would be the Pitocin that started my labor. In labor or before a women begins labor sometimes she is given Pitocin to tell her body it is time to go into the labor process in order to give birth. It pushes the body to do what it should do on its' own, but it may be in delay. Divorce ended a family unit. It caused a lot of pain. Yet, it was journey I needed to take in order for God to move me into my calling.
In my many years of dealing with insignificance, lacking self-love and self-worth, feeling invisible, depression, anxiety, fear, lack and being locked up in the prison of my mind, I never thought God would use me to help other women to be free in the same areas of their life. The labor pains were hard and strong. I had a battle going on inside my mind, will & emotions and yet, I knew I had made the right choice. Other around me can say divorce means I failed, but God was in control and I followed.
When looking at where you are now and where you thought you would be, it can bring anger, pain and disappointment. Just like me, I hope you will ask God, "Who Am I, Now?" I remember hearing God repeat that question over and over within my spirit until I said it out of my mouth. "God, Who Am I, NOW?" I'm not a wife anymore. I felt losing that title took my identity. Marriage was to me my way of someone acknowledging I was worthy. Now, with Divorce on my resume, I didn't know who I was anymore, or if ever knew.
So I will ask you, "Who are you, NOW?" Divorce may be on your resume of life, but it is not the deciding factor of who you are. What does life look like to you now? Who can you become, Now? Although painful, Divorce can place you in the birth position to learn who you really are, NOW. This life shift perfectly positions you to gain a new title: Overcomer, Brave, Strong, Wise and more. Failure doesn't get to be in your new identity unless you allow it to be.
What did you learn about yourself in and after your divorce?
What did you discover you are capable of doing?
How did you grow from it?
What did you teach your children in through the process?
These are the questions to ask when failure speaks to you. These are the questions you ask yourself, when you regret walking away. You became someone you may have not known or felt you loss through the process. Now, you get to redefine YOU. You get to allow God to help you through the birth process of who He knew you would be NOW.
Divorce is painful, yes. It can also be the beginning of someone new and braver than she ever imagined herself to be......YOU